Creativity is valued in all aspects of life except for romantic relationships.
We tell ourselves that if the passion is fading, that’s a sign that we weren’t meant to be. If things are getting boring, maybe its time to move on.
Creativity is relegated to choosing unwanted gifts on commercial holidays and anniversaries. There’s no point in working through any deeper issue out because that doesn’t fit the romantic story we tell ourselves. Any attempt to rekindle the passion is unnatural and manipulative and won’t last anyways…
…except that nothing lasts…not our bodies without food, not our laptops without power, and certainly not relationships without work and creativity.
The romantic story we tell ourselves about love at first sight, soul mates, and undying passion is just that, a story. It’s a story that we desperately grip onto with white knuckles but also one we can change if we want to. The question is, do we want to preserve a lazy fantasy of unmet promises, or are we ready to work on the messy reality that is life?